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At the start of the year, I shared ten reasons why you need the No Fucks Given Guides in your life, based on the first four titles in the collection (there are also two journals). I’m so pleased that a fifth book has just been released, called Fuck No: How to stop saying yes, when you can’t, you shouldn’t, or you just don’t want to. Sounds like a fantastic life lesson, ready to help you take on 2020 in sweary style, right?
As is to be expected when it comes to self-help titles from the ultimate ‘anti-guru’, it’s equal parts helpful and hilarious, packed with puns, alliteration, quizzes and flow charts. I fucking love a quiz, as noted in my review of Get Your Shit Together, when I found out that I’m a Simon (a perfectionist that takes on too much). Fuck No takes it one step further, helping you discover what kind of Yes Man you are: People Pleaser, Pushover, Over-achiever, or FOMOer. Turns out I’m a People Pleasing Pushover. And now I can address it!
What I love about Fuck No is the sheer volume of examples. Its predecessors are packed with advice but sometimes you need someone to put the actual words in your mouth for you. There’s an example for everything here, and several I can apply to situations I’ve already struggled with. When I first started reading it on the commute, I pulled it out at work and shared it with colleagues who were intrigued. I think this copy might get passed around a bit.
The No Fucks Given Guides are welcome reminders that it’s ok to put yourself first. With Fuck No, Knight addresses the most epic of ‘nobstacles’: guilt – it’s a ‘giant obstacle to setting and enforcing boundaries and saying no’. It’s easy to feel that you’re letting people down by not doing someone a favour at work, or choosing to stay at home and relax at the end of a long week rather than going out and being sociable. But Knight suggests weighing up which option is worse: telling someone you don’t want to do the thing they want you to do, or doing something you don’t want to do. When you really weigh up the options, it turns out you win most, if not all, of the time. So start saying (fuck) no more often – and guilt-free.
There’s also a fantastic section on consent which I’d love to see as a separate blog post to easily share across social.
What do you need to learn to say “fuck no” to?