I didn’t really set any new year’s resolutions for the last couple of years – I just wanted to focus on being a good mum. Now I feel like I’ve settled into the working mum routine and it’s time to focus on myself a bit more.
In my latest Box of Lame (more on that in a couple of days), I received some great prompts for what I want to achieve in the new year. It’s so easy to think about things that you want to give up and forget about what you want to try and do more of.
One of the templates was for ten resolutions and I really only have two or three solid ones. The rest are more things that I want to do more of, such as go to the cinema and more date nights. I also want to get Jenson settled into nursery but hopefully that’s a given.
My two main goals for the year are to practice more self-care and to grow this blog.
Grow this blog
There are a few things I want to tick off the list here:
- Re-name/re-design the blog
- Register my own domain
- Go self-hosted
Hopefully I can do all of this by Easter, funds allowing (plus I really need the extra space!), and maybe even start earning by the end of the year.
Practice more self-care
I don’t want to sound like my life is hard but I’m pretty exhausted and don’t get much time to spend doing what I want to do or relaxing. I only work 17.5 hours a week over three days but I spend four hours a day just travelling to and from work. When I get home I spend some time with Jenson, have dinner and put him to bed. Depending on if/when he naps, he goes down anytime 8-11pm. Once he’s asleep I tackle the laundry and the dishes before either catching up on the blog or going to bed myself. Come Wednesday night (I work Monday-Wednesday), I’m so exhausted that I normally fall asleep on the sofa before Jenson goes to sleep. On the days where I don’t work I spend every second that Jenson is awake with him. If he naps while we’re at home, I get the housework done so that I can ‘relax’ in the evening. I usually get posts scheduled on these evenings. One day a week I get a proper lie-in but it’s normally preceded by an exhausted early night, so I use this lie-in time to do the writing that I wanted to do the night before. Man, I’m knackered just writing about it! I think I’ve had two solo baths since Jenson was born and it’s not often that I can stay awake for a whole film in the evening; it took me six months to watch Gilmore Girls! Suffice it to say, I don’t really know how to relax anymore. And that needs to change.
When I started my bujo I found it really therapeutic to plan everything out and sit and doodle for a bit – provided everything else was done! I want to focus on this in 2017 and spend more time just taking a break and shutting my mind off for a few minutes. I wish I could afford to subscribe to the Buddy Box every month as I think this is just the regular reminder that I need (more on that next week too). Maybe I’ll try the lite box…
My third and final resolution is to give less fucks! ‘Scuse the swear but I think it’s another thing (along with self-care) that a lot of us could do with trying. I’m pretty good at not dwelling on things that I don’t have the power to change but I do care too much about what other people think and over-think. A lot. I want to try and learn to let things go more this year and worry less about other people. I also want to feel comfortable with my body. I’ve struggled massively with body image and self-esteem issues since I had Jenson and, while it would be nice to drop a dress size or two, I’m not going to put pressure on myself to do so. I’m simply going to try to eat better, walk more where possible, spend more time outdoors with Jenson and hope that I start to feel better about myself. I’m also going to stop hiding under baggy clothes and start wearing clothes which make me feel good, regardless of size. Fingers crossed!
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