A couple of weeks ago I reflected on the goals I set for 2017 and, while I had a good stab at some of them, there are some I want to carry forward into the new year. I realised that these are the things I want to consistently do more of:
1. Make more time for me
Reminders from Sarah Knight and Blurt have reinforced the need for self-care and to put myself first. Self-care isn’t selfish. Over the next few weeks I’ll be working my way through Jayne Hardy’s The Self-Care Project (keep an eye on my weekly self-care posts) and figuring out what steps I can take to look after myself a bit more. It’s a bit sad that the only regular quiet time I have is my commute, especially as that’s only three days a week.
2. Watch more films
I used to be a massive film geek but over the last few years I’ve not kept up with the new releases – or even seen a lot of the oldies. I went from going to the cinema at least once a week to half a dozen times a year. But seeing La La Land in the cinema and reviewing Now Playing reminded me of my former love and I want to watch more films in 2018. I’m not going to go crazy and say one a week but monthly cinema trips and fortnightly Netflix viewings sound like a good start, especially as I want to catch up on Grey’s Anatomy this year. Have I mentioned how hard I’ve fallen for that show?
3. Be more creative
I’ve accepted that I’m not gifted artistically but I’ve loved making Christmas crafts with Jenson over the last few weeks and want to do more fun things with him this year, including baking. I also want to find some time to try hand lettering. I really enjoyed having a crack at calligraphy for World Calligraphy Day but haven’t picked up the pens since, so I’d like to give that another go.
4. Go on more adventures
Most people put travelling on their goals list and aim to visit a new city or country every month. Me? I just want to visit more places locally which are new to me. I want to go the cinema in Newlyn, eat at Amelie’s in Porthleven, visit the Tremenheere Sculpture Gardens, take Jenson to Lappa Valley and have a night’s stay at a nice hotel with a spa, room with a view and breakfast in bed. Ok, maybe that last one is pushing it a bit, but we’ll see.
5. More date nights/days
Apart from the the odd cinema trip, in 2017 Luke and I had two nights out without Jenson – dinner at the Rock Pool Cafe and a double date to see Justice League and eat after. That’s bad, right? We need to make more time for each other this year, even if it’s just to watch something on Netflix after Jenson’s gone to bed rather than heading straight to the office for gaming/blogging. We’re starting with Star Wars and pizza later this week.
6. Try new things
I’m not at all spontaneous and don’t cope well with change. I’m a rigorous planner and spend 99% of my time within my comfort zone. In 2018 I’m going to try more new things, be more spontaneous and take more chances. I’ll report back at the end of the year. Wish me luck.
And, because I can’t resist a top ten list, there are some new goals I’ve added this year:
7. Work on my side hustle
When I start back at work on Monday I’m going to crack open Sarah Knight’s Get Your Shit Together and work towards taking on some freelance work this year – I haven’t done any since before Jenson was born and I feel confident in my ability to handle a heavier workload now.
8. Read more books outside of my comfort zone
A few years ago I primarily read chick lit and classics, then started reading more thrillers and young adult books and this year I read a lot of non-fiction and feminist titles. I’ve traditionally stayed away from sci-fi and fantasy but the books I’ve come across in those genres recently have pleasantly surprised me (namely The Next Together and Caraval). I’ve learned not be so dismissive of books (and films) because of their genre (or a particular actor) and I’m going to make more of an effort to read a wider range of books.
9. Make new connections
This year I put myself out there and pitched successfully to several brands and I’d like to go even bigger this year. I’m even hoping to attend the National Stationery Show and establish myself as a reliable source for all things stationery.
10. Be kinder to myself
I’m very self-deprecating and can’t take a compliment but this year I want to learn to go a lot easier on myself – banish the mum guilt and Imposter Syndrome and build my self-confidence. This is similar to the self-care goal but goes beyond taking a break as it’s more about my perception and treatment of myself.
I think ten things is quite adventurous for one year but most don’t have an end result/target to reach. It’s a handy check-list to refer back to every now and then to make sure I’m doing more of what makes me happy. And that’s something I think we should all be doing.
What are your goals for 2018?